So what do we parents usually do?
We neglect them, repress them, or neurotically try that one of our kids redeems us. The added value of this book relies on the friendly and colloquial language used by Hernan to share his experiences as a tennis player and father, and to pass on his wealth of knowledge, which was hardly gained through multiple frustrations.
His illustration of the fact that although it is hard for us to accept it, passion cannot be transferred, and as a consequence; if the fire of passion doesn’t burn inside you, it cannot be taught.
Hernan does a great job laying out that you cannot force somebody to desire what he/she doesn’t desire because you can just love what you don’t love in a heartbeat.
Being a parent is a very hard task as well as it is being a son/daughter.
Even though the most common psychologic phenomenon is that kids feel identified with their parents, in many cases it is the parents who feel identified with the kids and aspire for them what they couldn’t achieve when younger.
That implies treating your kid as an extension of yourself that will materialize your frustrated dreams of being famous and multimillionaire.